The Myth of Perfect

In my life I have often been treated as if my mistakes are character flaws – that I’m careless or selfish because I forgot something or I misspelled something or transposed a number somewhere-and more importantly, the implication that I’m doing it deliberately. It wasn’t until very recently I learned that everyone makes mistakes and that it’s human and normal to make mistakes (how did I NOT know this?). You have no idea how liberating it is to actually internalize that concept!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying this absolves me of the consequences or gives me permission to make mistakes because I AM being deliberately careless or selfish, but it does significantly reduce some of the “I’m bad” nonsense that runs around in my head.

One of the light bulbs for me was Neil Gaiman’s 2012 Keynote Address, “Make Good Art”. This must have resonated with A LOT of people because not only did it go viral (and quotes from it still pop up in memes all the time), he made book out of it. He talks about how if you don’t feel like you can do something you should “pretend that you are someone who can do that thing, not pretend to do it, but pretend you are someone who could”. And he says “make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes”. If THAT’S not a liberating concept I don’t know what is.

I’ve heard other people (people who are famous enough to be on radio or TV or any other big public platform) say that if you’re not making mistakes you’re not learning or you’re not trying something new. They say that about pissing people off too – if you’re not pissing someone off then you’re not really doing anything. I’m still processing that one.

The problem isn’t in making mistakes, it’s in letting them defeat you rather than learning from them. There are so many things I’ve tried in my life that didn’t work out right away and I just gave up, thinking I must not be good at this or that. I never persisted long enough to find out if I could be good at it. That has been changing over the last few years (probably since 2012).

People who are considered wise (or at least quotable) have said this about perfection:

“Perfect is the enemy of good” – Voltaire

“Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without” – Confucius

“Never wait in expectation of perfection or you’ll wait forever” – J.K. Rowling

“You will learn more from a glorious failure than you ever will from something that you never finished.” – Neil Gaiman

Although these quotes can actually be applied to anything in life I’m an artist, so I often perceive them through the lens of my artistic pursuits. In 2018 I published my first book, The Art of Sigils. It’s not perfect, but it’s done and it’s out there. If I had waited to publish until it was perfect I’d still be sitting on it.

I have never really put myself “out there” to teach the things I know because I don’t consider myself an “expert” on anything (in other words, I’m not perfect) – “jack of all trades, master of none”, that’s me. Then I realized, a lot of people teach subjects that they know something about but haven’t necessarily perfected and that there are going to be people out there who actually know less than I do about any given subject and they’re the ones I can teach. Sigils, crafts and photography – these are some of the things I know well. So, this year I am setting up online and IRL classes and workshops on subjects I do know quite a lot about, though maybe not everything. And it’s not going to be perfect, but it’s going to be interesting and it’s going to be fun. And I’ll be learning from the people I teach as well. I won’t have all the answers, but if someone asks me a question and I don’t know the answer I can research it and get back to them and we both learn. If I share with people the knowledge I do have then I’m sending out ripples into the world. Sigils, crafts, photography, art I think these are good, healing ripples to send out into this increasingly chaotic and confusing world.

Make 2019 the year you give yourself permission to be creative and the year you accept that you make mistakes and learn from them rather than run from them.

(updated February 20) Workshop Dates:

Pysanka is the Ukrainian art of decorating eggs. “The word pysanka comes from the verb pysaty, "to write" or "to in scribe", as the designs are not painted on, but written (inscribed) with beeswax” – Wikipedia. If you do a search you’ll come up with beautiful, intricate images of Pysanky (plural form). Don’t let the intricacy of the designs intimidate you. It’s a simple technique and the designs are actually easy to do once you understand the step-by-step method used to make them.

I have Pysanky workshops scheduled at the following locations (please contact the stores directly to pre-register for the classes):

March 8th at The Dragon and The Rose store in Anaheim
March 9th at The Green Man Store in North Hollywood.
March 30^th & 31st (Saturday is SOLD OUT) at My Creative Outlet craft store in Chatsworth
Tentative: April (TBD) at Practical Magica store in Bellflower

I’m also in the process of scheduling Sigil Making classes (because once you learn Pysanka you can inscribe sigils on eggs with the same process)!

March 2nd I'm teaching a sigil class at Healing Oak Crystals in Simi Valley.

To be notified of future classes follow me at www.TheArtOfSigils.com or sign up for my newsletter. I also do a monthly Sigil challenge wherein I post a sigil (in the newsletter) and invite readers to do something creative with it or tell me what the sigil inspires in them. No pressure, no judging, just for fun and as a creative playdate.