In my life I have often been treated as if my mistakes are
character flaws – that I’m careless or selfish because I forgot something or I
misspelled something or transposed a number somewhere-and more importantly, the
implication that I’m doing it deliberately. It wasn’t until very recently I
learned that everyone makes mistakes and that it’s human and normal to make
mistakes (how did I NOT know this?). You have no idea how liberating it is to actually
internalize that concept!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying this absolves me of the
consequences or gives me permission to make mistakes because I AM being
deliberately careless or selfish, but it does significantly reduce some of the
“I’m bad” nonsense that runs around in my head.
One of the light bulbs for me was
Neil Gaiman’s
2012 Keynote Address, “
Make
Good Art”. This must have resonated with A LOT of people because not only
did it go viral (and quotes from it still pop up in memes all the time), he
made book out of it. He talks about how if you don’t feel like you can do
something you should “pretend that you are someone who can do that thing, not
pretend to do it, but pretend you are someone who could”. And he says “make
interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic
mistakes”. If THAT’S not a liberating concept I don’t know what is.
I’ve heard other people (people who are famous enough to be on radio or TV or
any other big public platform) say that if you’re not making mistakes you’re
not learning or you’re not trying something new. They say that about pissing
people off too – if you’re not pissing someone off then you’re not really doing
anything. I’m still processing that one.
The problem isn’t in making mistakes, it’s in letting them
defeat you rather than learning from them. There are so many things I’ve tried
in my life that didn’t work out right away and I just gave up, thinking I must
not be good at this or that. I never persisted long enough to find out if I could be good at it. That has been
changing over the last few years (probably since 2012).
People who are considered wise (or at least quotable) have said
this about perfection:
“Perfect is the enemy of good” – Voltaire
“Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without” –
Confucius
“Never wait in expectation of perfection or you’ll wait
forever” – J.K. Rowling
“You will learn more from a glorious failure than you ever
will from something that you never finished.” – Neil Gaiman
Although these quotes can actually be applied to anything in life I’m an
artist, so I often perceive them through the lens of my artistic pursuits. In
2018 I published my first book, The Art
of Sigils. It’s not perfect, but it’s done and it’s out there. If I had
waited to publish until it was perfect I’d still be sitting on it.
I have never really put myself “out there” to teach the things I know because I
don’t consider myself an “expert” on anything (in other words, I’m not perfect)
– “jack of all trades, master of none”, that’s me. Then I realized, a lot of
people teach subjects that they know something about but haven’t necessarily
perfected and that there are going to be people out there who actually know less than I do about any given subject
and they’re the ones I can teach. Sigils, crafts and photography – these are some
of the things I know well. So, this year I am setting up online and IRL classes
and workshops on subjects I do know
quite a lot about, though maybe not everything. And it’s not going to be
perfect, but it’s going to be interesting and it’s going to be fun. And I’ll be
learning from the people I teach as well. I won’t have all the answers, but if
someone asks me a question and I don’t know the answer I can research it and
get back to them and we both learn. If I share with people the knowledge I do
have then I’m sending out ripples into the world. Sigils, crafts, photography,
art I think these are good, healing ripples to send out into this increasingly
chaotic and confusing world.
Make 2019 the year you give yourself permission to be
creative and the year you accept that you make mistakes and learn from them
rather than run from them.
(updated February 20) Workshop Dates:
Pysanka is the Ukrainian
art of decorating eggs. “
The word pysanka comes from the verb pysaty,
"to write" or "to in scribe", as the designs are not
painted on, but written (inscribed) with beeswax” – Wikipedia. If you do a search you’ll come up
with beautiful, intricate images of Pysanky (plural form). Don’t let the
intricacy of the designs intimidate you. It’s a simple technique and the
designs are actually easy to do once you understand the step-by-step method
used to make them.
I have Pysanky workshops scheduled at the following locations (please contact the stores directly to pre-register for the classes):
March 8th at
The Dragon and The Rose store in Anaheim
March 9th at
The Green Man Store in North Hollywood.
March 30th & 31st (Saturday is SOLD OUT) at
My Creative Outlet craft store in
Chatsworth
Tentative: April (TBD) at Practical Magica store in Bellflower
I’m also in the process of scheduling Sigil Making classes (because once you
learn Pysanka you can inscribe sigils on eggs with the same process)!
March 2nd I'm teaching a sigil class at
Healing Oak Crystals in Simi Valley.
To be
notified of future classes follow me at www.TheArtOfSigils.com
or
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up for my newsletter. I also do a monthly Sigil challenge wherein I
post a sigil (in the newsletter) and invite readers to do something creative
with it or tell me what the sigil inspires in them. No pressure, no judging,
just for fun and as a creative playdate.